Frequently Asked Questions about Mediation
How does mediation work?
Before we begin mediation, I meet with each parent individually to learn more about the situation from each parent’s perspective, explore whether mediation is appropriate and answer any questions. Generally, I mediate with both parents in the room. Joint mediation sessions are scheduled for two hours. Some families are able to finish in one appointment, but most need two or more.
Can mediation work if we have a lot of conflict?
Yes. Conflict is a great reason to mediate! Unresolved, persistent conflict is harmful to both children and parents. Many parents with ongoing conflict have not had an opportunity to discuss issues, explore creative solutions and attempt repair with the support of a mediator. Parents are often much more satisfied with mediated parenting arrangements than court-ordered plans.
If we agree in mediation, are we finished?
If you reach agreements in mediation, I will document them in a letter to both parents. You should take that letter to your attorney so that you can obtain legal advice and have your attorney draft the agreements into a legal document such as a parenting plan. Agreements are not binding until they are drafted into a legal document and signed by a judicial officer.
Do you mediate financial issues like child support or property/debt division?
No. I only mediate parenting arrangements and co-parenting concerns. I can recommend other qualified professionals who can help you with your financial settlement.
Who is present during mediations?
Generally, only the parents are present. If either parent would like to include a third party, we can explore whether that is possible.
Can we mediate if there has been domestic violence in our relationship?
In cases where one or both parties have engaged in coercive, intimidating or physically violent actions, mediation is not likely to be appropriate because it may have the effect of maintaining or increasing the imbalance of power or safety risks for family members. Please call to discuss your situation in detail if you have questions in this area.